Question about stress

[CaribMD]

I kno it seems like we're rushing it, but we just have our lives planned out and didn't expect school to take as long as it is taking...
I guess with her having a 6yr old child already-its not only sibling rivalry, which we think might still be an issue, but its the fact that my partner feels like when her 6yr old gets to a certain age, say-10yrs if we wait-then she won't want to start from scratch again with a new baby...she feels as if she will lose her passion for having a child if we wait too long. And I don't wanna risk not having any children with her...I don't plan on adopting her current child-the father is very active in her life. They basically have joint custody without a court order so adopting isn't an option, nor would I ever do that to her father.

Honestly 24 plus 3 or 4 years still puts you at 27/28 the perfect age to have a kid, you have more patients at this time, even more at 35, I'm 45 and still I have more patients and wisdom...........

I think you really need to look at this as path and journey not a rush to the finish, Life is to be enjoyed, embraced and at times the challenges handled. Life is impossible to plan in reality since a lot of things cannot be controlled, they can only be managed. I have taken a lot of time off this past year from school and will graduate later then I planned, but its because of life issues.

Theres a good time to have children and bring them into the world to share and be taught about life.

I personally feel when you are young and going through a process of learning and stress its not a good time to bring a child into the world and subject them to that stress, plus while doable, having a child while in school, you have less time to pay attention to a being who is helpless and needs you.
Just my opinion.

Get your education then have another child. Theres a time for everything and you have a lot of time. :mrgreen:

[Vega]

I didn't have a child until I was 32, my wife was 36 and all is good. Aside from that, whether you are in medical school or working or wherever you are in life, it's important to learn to balance your life in order to battle the stress. If you don't make time for yourself to relax and have fun, you'll only hurt your health from the stress that will build up.

[fruitrollup]

I know that you are going to be extremely busy as it is, but maybe try to find time somewhere in your schedule to do a yoga/meditation class. I have found it to be so imperative to have YOU time, even if that means taking out a little more time from your sleep. Yoga and meditation has proven to decrease stress as well as bring on numerous other health benefits. I would strongly suggest at least looking in to this, even if it is for the future when you have more time for things like this!

[lovenurture]

I agree that it could be too demanding of you to have a child WHILE starting school.

I guess it all boils down to if you want it or not, do not count the wishes of your partner when answering the question for yourself.

Other than that, stress is unavoidable, especially with a newborn.

[Agbert]

I guess with her having a 6yr old child already-its not only sibling rivalry, which we think might still be an issue, but its the fact that my partner feels like when her 6yr old gets to a certain age, say-10yrs if we wait-then she won't want to start from scratch again with a new baby